If you think about it, you can probably relate to a tulip bulb.
It’s planted in the fall.
For many months all the bulb knows is darkness, cold, and the heaviness of dirt.
You may feel buried beneath grief, sorrow, pain, hopelessness.
For tulip bulbs, this season is necessary. Without it, they will not grow shoots and bloom.
Winter is the time when the bulb roots deep, and change occurs. It is not only surviving, it is preparing to grow.
When the earth warms, a shoot breaks through the bulb and pushes up through the darkness and dirt.
It knows it is time.
It’s the season to grow and bloom.
It’s the season of color and beauty.
So, whatever season you are in…be like a tulip.
When life has you buried beneath grief, sorrow, pain, loss, and more, root deep into things that nourish you physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Quiet your spirit and know you are beautiful and loved.
If you are in a season to push through, gather your energy and reach up through the darkness even when you can’t see the light. It’s time to press on, and you know in your heart it’s what you are supposed to do.
Stretch yourself out of your comfort zone.
Reach towards a goal you still cannot see.
Then comes the season that seems like it should be so easy, yet it can be most challenging.
It’s the season of being. Being you in full, glorious bloom.
The doubts and questions arise.
Who are you to bloom so large?
You must be pretty arrogant to think you can do that.
Who do you think you are?
You are not all that special.
You should wait until you are more perfect.
People are going to look at you and judge you.
Stop the chatter.
Stop the lies and the lifetime of stories.
Yes, the blooming season is often stunted or cut short by the noise, and it’s most often the noise in one’s own head and heart.
So, what about you?
You know how to endure trauma.
You know how to survive.
You know how to push through the hard times.
But, who are you when you are called to shine in all your power, gifts, and exquisite beauty?
What does that look like when you are not focusing on survival or pushing through?
Take the time to think about that.
Ask your heart what it looks like to be all you were created to be. Give your heart time to dream. Your brain may start to chatter and caution you to dream smaller. It doesn’t want you to get hurt, so it will encourage you to think safe thoughts, dream safe dreams, and to stay invisible.
Shhh. Quiet the fear.
Think of tulips.
If you were a tulip, what kind would you be? What color? What shape? Where are you blooming? What kind of tulips are blooming around you?
When you’re knee deep (nose deep?) in Life’s Fertilizer, sometimes you just have to laugh. It’s either laugh or cry, and crying all the time is exhausting. I can't imagine anyone has ever said, "I've just cried my eyes out, and now I'm so full of energy I can run a marathon". If I heard that, I'd have to bite my tongue, think happy thoughts and walk away.
The women I have gotten to know over the past few years would never let the world know their heart was breaking. You'd look at them and think they have it all together, and their life must be pretty good. If you asked, they'd tell you they were doing fine. They would mean it because of the simple fact they were up, still functioning and going 100 miles per hour taking care of everyone and doing everything that needs to be done.
They wouldn't share the hard stuff, the stuff overwhelming and breaking their heart. This detail is saved for the trusted few; those who notice, ask and genuinely want to know.
I've been blessed with opportunities to share my story with women and to listen to theirs. Each story was of love and of heartbreak through many seasons of life; from the joys and sorrows of children and family, relationships, work success and failure, caring for and losing loved ones and everything in between.
I love these women.
We understand each other. We are not whiners or complainers. We are get up and get it done kind of women. We pour our heart into life, juggling the demands of each day and serving those we love the best we can. With only 24 hours in a day, our needs come last. We do not want to hear that this is not a sustainable way to live healthy, strong and beautiful.
Our greatest strength, however, is also our greatest weakness. Darn it.
I gave them an increasing list of symptoms and syndromes that could possibly occur if they didn't start taking care of themselves; weight gain, tiredness, inability to sleep, joint pain, anxiety, high blood pressure, thyroid issues, digestive issues etc. They looked at me and their eyes got wide as if I was reading their mind and body. Several were experiencing these very things and hadn't said anything about it. They believed all their symptoms were a normal part of aging beyond 40 and they would just have to deal with it.
…until I told them this, and it suddenly made sense and gave hope.
"Can you create a 30 day program that will help people with all their various symptoms?"
This was how the conversation started. I don't know if I hid my eye-twitch response very well, but my answer was "No, that's not possible."
No, I can't because...
I went on to explain the body works as one integrated system; the body, mind/emotions and spirit. In my work and teaching Contact Reflex Analysis, I don't treat symptoms. I uncover the root cause of symptoms and syndromes; the imbalance in the body creating the symptom. Though the symptom may be the same, the cause can be different for each person. It would be impossible to create one program that would help everyone with all the various aspects of health and wellness.
I was adamant that there is NOT ONE THING for everyone.
Then it hit me...YES, there is ONE THING that would assist the rest of the body going back into balance so the body could heal itself. I have taught it for years and it remains a foundation principle of CRA.